Transitioning your toddler from a cot to a “big bed” is a major milestone. For you, this means letting go of your baby and acknowledging they are getting bigger, as much as we like to ignore this fact and we are never really emotionally ready for this.
Around the age two, many kiddos are developmentally ready to make the switch, though the timing can vary depending on the child’s needs, personality, and circumstances (like a new sibling on the way). Here’s how to make the move as smooth, safe, and stress-free as possible.
1.Know When It’s Time
There’s no fixed rules, but signs your toddler might be ready for a big bed include:
• Climbing out of the cot: This is a safety concern and often the top reason parents make the switch.
• Potty training: If your child is toilet training and needs to get up during the night, a cot becomes a barrier.
• Outgrowing the cot: Some toddlers simply get too big for their cot.
• Showing interest in beds: If your child is fascinated by older siblings’ or parents’ beds, that curiosity can work in your favour.
2. Choose the Right Bed
A “big bed” doesn’t have to mean a full-sized one right away. Consider:
• Toddler beds: These are low to the ground and often use the same mattress as the cot. Many have built-in side rails for safety.
• Single beds: A regular single bed with safety rails is also a great option — and it grows with your child.
• Floor beds: Inspired by Montessori, some parents opt for a mattress on the floor to encourage independence and reduce falls.
In this case I went with the most cost effective route of a single bed with a safety rail, so that my son could grow into his bed. Safety rails are there for your piece of mind. My son fell out his bed once, even with the rail but this helped him navigate his bed and he hasn’t fallen out again, 2 years later.
There are various options for a safety rail:
- You can buy them already made, something that has “feet” that slide under the mattress.
- You can make a wooden one that attaches to the upright part of the bed.
- You can use 3 full length pool noodles strapped together to make a triangular shape. Pop that under the fitted sheet length wise and this is a deterrent for rolling out the bed.
3. Make It Exciting
Help your child feel excited and involved:
• Let them help pick out the new bedding (characters, colours they love) and maybe a new stuffy toy.
• Talk it up as a “big kid” step.
• Read books about moving to a big bed.
5. Stick to Routines
Toddlers thrive on routine. Keep the bedtime routine consistent:
• Bath, story, lullabies, cuddles — whatever your current routine is, keep it going.
• Aim for the same bedtime each night.
• Use a nightlight if your toddler gets anxious about their new surroundings.
6. Expect Some Wobbles
It’s normal for toddlers to test boundaries:
• They might get out of bed repeatedly. Calmly walk them back with minimal fuss.
• It is very important to be patient and consistent, it can take a few weeks to fully adjust. This will be a frustrating time for you, but keep reassuring them.
• Offer plenty of praise and encouragement for sleeping in the big bed.
7. Consider the Timing
To make this new step as “easy” as possible, avoid any other big transitions at the same time. If your child is starting preschool, potty training, or there’s a new baby, consider whether it’s the right moment to make the switch. If possible, space out major changes to avoid overwhelming these little souls and don’t forget to support them emotionally through this big change. Good Luck Mama’s (and Daddy’s).